Flirting and Body Language
It's the difference between getting the girl or not!
Psychological studies show that flirtatious body language touching during a friendly conversation causes people to remember the conversation more fondly after the fact.
The combination of touch with social proof is dynamite. Touch one girl and the other girls seeing this think its normal or even "good" to be touchy feely with you. Now you can quite naturally move on to touching those other girls!
Flirting and body language is quite simple- hug them, touch their hand one in a while and in A NON THREATENING WAY, that is, not like the desperate perverts that we all are.
So the idea is, you hide completely the interest you might have AND at the same time you act really touchy and huggy. The problem is - you have to start flirtatious body language touching early in the relationship, it has to seem natural, or otherwise she'll wonder "what the heck is he doing?"
Once you've developed that kind of flirtatious friendship, it's easy to spawn other such 'friendships' with other women: they will see you being close to another woman, and I think the key here is that, it probably does not trigger as much jealousy as it makes them (the "new" ones) feel comfortable.
They see another woman being touched by you in a non-threatening way, and Bam! social-proof, it becomes a 'proof' to them that it's normal flirting for you to touch them.
I use this technique all the time. TOUCH HER! It doesn't matter if you just met her. Hold her hand, rub her arm, her elbow, her back, her shoulders, her hair, her face. JUST TOUCH HER!!! (But be careful to not be a perve about it)
1. PAY ATTENTION TO HOW SHE RESPONDS TO YOU!!!
2. PAY ATTENTION TO HOW SHE RESPONDS TO YOU!!!
3. One more time: PAY ATTENTION TO HOW SHE RESPONDS TO YOU!!!
If you do this, you will be able to better gauge if you have the appropriate rapport to invite a kiss. If her body language seems to respond to the non-sexual touching then get gradually more sexual. For flirting women, some areas of the body outside of the primary erogenous zones are intimate: the palms, inside the elbow, ear lobes, cheeks, the hips were the waist meets the hips, between the fingers....
4. Last thing: PAY ATTENTION TO HOW SHE RESPONDS TO YOU!!!
Do the flirtatious body language touching that lovers do - brush off "something" that's stuck in her hair, gently stroke her cheek pretending to wipe off an eyelash etc. These are the types of things lovers do and by doing them, you will make her feel (doesn't even matter if only subconsciously) like you were her lover. Plus you'll get "innocent" yet flirtatious touching!
Touch the girl as soon as you meet her. Meeting someone for the first time is an excellent chance for flirtatious body language touching - shaking hands when exchanging names is a tradition of many cultures and cultures. But make sure you hold on to her hand longer than expected, maybe even place your other hand gently over hers. Do it long enough for you to enjoy it and for her to notice, but don’t hold her hand for so long that she begins to feel uncomfortable and pull away.
When meeting girls you already know, shaking hands might seem strange, so giving some sort of a hug is the way to go. You don't need to fall all over her to give her a hug. Depending on the situation that might make you look like a fool or a pervert or make her embarrassed instead of having her enjoy it too. A hug can also be putting your arm around her waist or shoulders when standing to her left or right and pulling her closer for a moment, or taking her hand for a moment (but not shaking it), or her elbow, or arm etc. Touch her on the hand or arm as soon as you say hi to show her you are a sexual being who likes flirtatious touching.
Set the flirting and body language mood of the date. When going on a casual date or get-together, establish the flirting mood immediately. You can of course change the mood from "polite and calm" to "warm and friendly" to "aroused and sweaty" during the course of the meeting, but why go the hard way, if you can jump right into "warm and friendly" or beyond in the first place.
It is best to be acting enthusiastic upon meeting the girl. But even without that, you can be all smiles when you meet her, give her a big hug right away, try to take and hold her hand all the way to wherever it is that you'll be going and watch her change from slightly nervous to happy, smiling, starry-eyed and glowing all over. And remember - enthusiasm is contagious!
Foot-flirting and flirtatious body language. You've all seen it done in the movies. The foot looses the shoe and the sexy woman is stroking the man with her bare foot or vice versa. Corny you say? A cliché maybe? Try it and then see what you think. This works best when you are sitting across from her. Just use your feet! Of course this requires a small table, but this also helps to set up an intimate atmosphere (remember candles etc.). Flirtatiously touch her feet "occasionally" with your own under the table, say something like "tee hee, are you foot-flirtin' with me?" in a joking way.
Look her deeply in the eyes while doing this, and continue using your feet. Do it the right way and at the right time with a chick in the right mood, and voila! You can actually proceed to rubbing each other's crotches with your toes under the table, then say "my bed is that way" and BANG! You're IN!
Can't hear you: Try this: If she says something, lean forward as if you aren't hearing her very well, and touch her (arm or back). Then lean back again and answer. Are there any easy flirting and body language clues as to when the right time is to touch her? The clue is when it's possible (ie, she's within in range).
Flirtatious body language touching is the saving grace of even the otherwise doomed "nice guy" approach. And in some instances, being the "nice guy" together with flirtatious body language touching can even be quite effective. Here's why: the success of flirtatious body language depends on whether the girl perceives you and your touch as a threat to her or not. You can be a rough and tough guy (I try to avoid the word "jerk" as it is not really quite representative of what the opposite of "nice guy" actually is) and still have the girl feel you are not a threat to her specifically, thus initiating touch will be easy.
A nice guy usually just has an easier time having girls feel he is not a threat to them. Usually though, that is also his undoing, as he is consequently perceived as weak, neutral and non-sexual, all of which are major turn-offs for girls.
But here is where the saving grace of flirtatious body language touching steps in. You are safe, so touching and hugging with you is... well, also safe. However, before she knows it - touching and hugging with you moves from feeling pretty good to quite exciting to really electrifying until all that good, safe and friendly physical contact with you is going to make her wonder: "If it feels so good just to touch with him, why on earth not do more? I wonder what that would be like?”
Which is not to say that being the "nice guy" is the way to go. This was simply meant to illustrate the strength of touching - it even works for the "nice guy". So remember – flirtatious body language touching really is the difference between getting the girl or not.
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